On average, we pick up our mobiles between 35 and 75 times per day, and we spend around eleven years of our lives on our phones! A decade ago, that was unimaginable. Now, most of us take our phones everywhere and treat them as an extension of ourselves.
There's even a word - nomophobia - for the huge anxiety many people experience when they find themselves without access to a working mobile.
Forty-six percent of people say they couldn’t live without their phones.
We do get to make choices about the roles technology plays in our lives, but often it feels like we’re not really in charge - we find ourselves turning to our devices, over and over again.
If any of this sounds familiar - and you’d like to gain control over your use of technology so you’re free to truly relax and enjoy the holidays - I’d love you to show you how you can outsmart your smartphone.
Join me for this three-part training and I'll walk you through my step-by-step system to take back your time - so your phone feels like a force for good in your life (not a tyrannical boss who demands your attention multiple times every hour).
Tired of your devices stealing your precious time? I can help!
I’m Nicola Brown, an efficiency coach and clinical psychologist with more than twenty years of experience in helping people make meaningful changes in their lives.
What’s one of the biggest obstacles many of us face in making the most of our day? For many, it’s that tiny little device we carry around with us.
It’s designed to grab our attention hundreds of times a day, it’s filled with engaging sights, sounds, connections and stimulation, and it can feel like it’s an extension of ourselves.
It can bring so much that is good into our lives and it can also take us far, far away from the people we love most, and the goals we truly care about.
It can soak up our time, sap our energy and leave us feeling guilty about squandering time.
From talking with people about how they feel about their smartphone use, I’ve noticed a wide range of experiences.
At one end of the spectrum - and I haven’t met too many smartphone owners in this camp - there’s no problem at all.
If this is you, you can happily go through the day or weekend without looking at your phone - sometimes you don’t know where your phone is, or the battery is flat, and you’re not the slightest bit bothered. (If you’re one of these people, you’re more likely to be irritated by someone else’s phone use - a partner, child or other family member.)
At the other extreme, many people feel really concerned about the HUGE role their devices play in their lives.
These people wonder why, even if they haven’t developed addictions to other behaviours (or substances), they feel hooked on their phone.
If this sounds like you, you may have set resolutions to avoid starting and ending your day with your phone in their hand, but still mysteriously find yourself reverting to those habits.
You might know that your phone distracts you when you’re with others, and find yourself saying “in a minute” one time too many, much to the annoyance of the people you care about.
Or you may lose huge chunks of time in the social media/online whirlpool - scrolling mindlessly, not remembering what you went online for, and wondering how on earth the time passed so quickly.
If you’re in this second group - or heading in that direction - and you want to take control of the role your smartphone (or other tech) has in your life, this workshop is for you.
I’d love to help you set some limits on your phone use and reclaim control of your time, so that you can live the life you’re craving!
I’ll teach you how to:
- understand how your phone use habits are impacting on your everyday life and relationships
- gain control when it comes to your time using devices (even if much of your work takes place online)
- set boundaries around mobile tech use when you’re worried not just about your own habits, but those of your loved ones.
HOW TO FIGURE OUT IF YOUR SMARTPHONE IS OUTSMARTING YOU - who’s really in charge here?
WHAT ROLES DOES YOUR PHONE HAVE IN YOUR LIFE? Often we’re seeking something when we go online, and it may not be what you think. What is that for you, and what is it taking you away from?
WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON HERE? Why are so many of us falling down the same rabbit warren of technology overwhelm? There are three big factors at play - and once you understand what these are, you’ll be back in the driver’s seat again.
HOW TO PUT BOUNDARIES IN PLACE so that your technology use adds to your life and doesn’t leave you tired, wired, distracted and overwhelmed.
A CLEAR AND SIMPLE SERIES OF STEPS TO EFFECTIVELY OUTSMART YOUR SMARTPHONE - so you can keep technology in its place.
WHAT STEPS TO TAKE IF YOU’RE WORRIED ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S DEVICE USE (hint - you can’t change their behaviour, but you can set boundaries).
BONUS: You’ll also receive a list of the best smartphone apps and software to help curb excessive use (this might sound counter-intuitive, but there are some GREAT tools available!)
I loved Nicola’s talk at Women Who Get Shit Done. She’s a lady after my own heart when it comes to not being a slave to your smartphone, and gives practical tips to be more productive and disciplined and ultimately to have more freedom.
Even though I consider myself proficient in this area, she really highlighted many areas where I was doing myself a disservice. Her factual insights and recommendations were a refreshing reminder to me and many others to reclaim our time and power one notification minimization at a time!
I met Nicola at the WWGSD (Women Who Get Shit Done) Unconference at Waihi beach in 2017. Nicola offered to take a breakout session on "how to be smarter than your smartphone". Amongst other things, I had hoped to get some information around "breaking the chains" to my ever so faithful Samsung. I had long known that I had an unhealthy relationship with my cell. From midnight emails to 6am Facebook sessions, my phone had become more and more involved in my daily routines - we would interact at least every hour of the day.
The session was absolutely amazing. Through Nicola’s session I was able to first of all acknowledge the relationship I had with my phone and then learn about practical skills to curb my unhealthy relationship with my phone. We are now almost six months out and I am happy to report that my cell phone usage has more than halved. I am able to spend more quality time with friends, family and my fiance and I have much more time to do things I enjoy. Thank you Nicola for breaking the cycle - I am pleased to report that for the first time in 10 years, I am smarter than my smartphone.
Dr Joyce Stalker
I attended a workshop run by Nicola on how to break your addiction to electronic devices. The hour-long workshop was well organised, positive and productive. Nicola briefly presented key information which stimulated an open, thoughtful discussion by the large group. With her guidance, smaller groups produced concrete strategies for dealing with their varied issues. These positive outcomes were possible because, as a moderator, Nicola was professional, and quietly created an atmosphere which was warm, supportive, creative and filled with laughter.
QUESTIONS & ANSWERS
No problem. You can check HERE to see what time this is for you. If you can’t join us live, you can submit questions in advance and we’ll answer them on the call. Within 24 hours of the training, you’ll receive a link to the recording of the workshop - which you can then download and work through at a time which suits you.
Of course, we know your time is precious, that's why we’ve created this training!
Tune in for the time you’re available to get a sense of what we’re teaching and how these strategies will work for you. We’ll then send you the recording after the event so you can dive in at leisure.
The focus of the training will be largely on changes we can make with our own behaviours. However we’ll also talk about setting limits and boundaries around phone use - as well as how to be a positive role model for others. Keep in mind that you can’t make changes for other people, but you’ll hear about the challenges many people face in terms of disconnecting from technology - which can help you to shape a new culture within your household.